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    So it says... Have you thought about it? Any idea how to prepare it nicely? What shall we do so the people we leave will not be in a mess? Shall we write a nice farewell speech/advice? What I'm planning to do is:
    First, ask forgiveness from the people I hurt the most so far
    Second, write down the debt/unfinished business I have (the housing loans, car, etc. I never thought about it until I write this LOL)
    Third, write a journal to my daughter so she'll remember me :-)
    Any other ideas?

  • #2
    Yes, I’ve thought of it and have a notarized will and have paid for my eventual funeral. That’s all I need.

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    • #3
      If you have more than one child/person to give your legacy to, prepare it properly because, if you don't, it's a very good way to break a family. So if you have some land or stuff to sell/divide, do it before you die and don't let this poisoned gift to your heirs.

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      • #4
        Originally posted by Sancta_Lux View Post
        If you have more than one child/person to give your legacy to, prepare it properly because, if you don't, it's a very good way to break a family. So if you have some land or stuff to sell/divide, do it before you die and don't let this poisoned gift to your heirs.

        I agree! I have known families torn apart by legacies. If you are going to leave your kids stuff, then do it before you die, that way you can sort out the mess yourself!

        As for "Memento Mori" literally it means "Remember you'll die" or words to that effect, I realised that and I arranged things long ago, so that my son does not have to! No funeral service, no church or chapel, no priests or preachers, no mourners etc. just a cremation with no fuss. All paid for in advance and agreed by all concerned anti-mortem.

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        • #5
          Originally posted by Sancta_Lux View Post
          If you have more than one child/person to give your legacy to, prepare it properly because, if you don't, it's a very good way to break a family. So if you have some land or stuff to sell/divide, do it before you die and don't let this poisoned gift to your heirs.
          Yes. Both my parents’ families faced a lot of infighting as a result of inheritances. My own sisters no longer talk to me because they didn’t like the way I handled our mother’s estate, so I understand quite well. That’s why my son is getting nothing when I die. Anyway, he has more money than I do so he doesn’t need it. I’ll try to spend every last dollar before I bite the dust...!

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          • #6
            The only thing I've told my close people was that NO signs of catholic church are acceptable during my funeral, I'll leave this request in written form too as well as the request to cremate my body. I've got the only son so everything I owe will be left to him as inheritance but....for now I want to live and enjoy life, I don't feel like dying but I sure think about how short our lives are and wish to experience as many happy moments as possible.

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            • #7
              Originally posted by RogerCarmel View Post
              Yes, I’ve thought of it and have a notarized will and have paid for my eventual funeral. That’s all I need.

              That's the most common things to do, can see you have prepared them well

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Sancta_Lux View Post
                If you have more than one child/person to give your legacy to, prepare it properly because, if you don't, it's a very good way to break a family. So if you have some land or stuff to sell/divide, do it before you die and don't let this poisoned gift to your heirs.
                actually I wasn't only thinking about the legacy or material things. I'm glad I only have one child and not many I can give to her as my legacy.

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Machlud View Post


                  I agree! I have known families torn apart by legacies. If you are going to leave your kids stuff, then do it before you die, that way you can sort out the mess yourself!

                  As for "Memento Mori" literally it means "Remember you'll die" or words to that effect, I realised that and I arranged things long ago, so that my son does not have to! No funeral service, no church or chapel, no priests or preachers, no mourners etc. just a cremation with no fuss. All paid for in advance and agreed by all concerned anti-mortem.
                  I'm thinking the same method as you: cremation It's simple and leave no burden to the family. Although here only the Chinese people do the cremation but non Chinese people also consider the cremation.Nevertheless, I haven't found any of my friends or families did it.

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by RogerCarmel View Post

                    Yes. Both my parents’ families faced a lot of infighting as a result of inheritances. My own sisters no longer talk to me because they didn’t like the way I handled our mother’s estate, so I understand quite well. That’s why my son is getting nothing when I die. Anyway, he has more money than I do so he doesn’t need it. I’ll try to spend every last dollar before I bite the dust...!

                    Sad to hear it but I can feel you. My great grandfather used to have half of the land of his village, divided them to his children but then some got many and the others got little, although there was no war between them but they were not in harmony as they used to be. As for my grandmother who lived out of her village most of her time, she didn't get any, not the house nor the land, nothing. She considered as outsider and didn't have any right to receive anything.

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by mala_feliz View Post

                      Sad to hear it but I can feel you. My great grandfather used to have half of the land of his village, divided them to his children but then some got many and the others got little, although there was no war between them but they were not in harmony as they used to be. As for my grandmother who lived out of her village most of her time, she didn't get any, not the house nor the land, nothing. She considered as outsider and didn't have any right to receive anything.
                      People go crazy when money is involved. That’s unfortunate because it breaks families.

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by mala_feliz View Post

                        actually I wasn't only thinking about the legacy or material things. I'm glad I only have one child and not many I can give to her as my legacy.
                        It's not only about material things but more in order to avoid any conflicts that could result of your legacy. For the rest, it's really up to people and depending on your relatives... Some will enjoy watching a video of you telling them goodbye, some won't. Some will need to spend time with their relatives and some could leave this world without anything, et caetera.
                        Last edited by Sancta_Lux; 11-19-2018, 11:18 PM.

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                        • #13
                          On the subject of death, there is a new (for humans) form of cremation: alkaline hydrolysis. Also called “aquamation” and “water cremation”, this method of body disposal is said to use much less energy than cremation. It is also said to be carbon neutral, does not emit any greenhouse gasses and is promoted as being ecologically friendly.

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                          • #14
                            [QUOTE=RogerCarmel;

                            promoted as being ecologically friendly.

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                            Which part of flushing large quantities of Sodium Hydroxide or some other "Lye" down the drain is considered "Ecologically Friendly"? I agree that there would be no carbon gas emissions but does that justify making the water resources alkaline?

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Machlud View Post

                              Which part of flushing large quantities of Sodium Hydroxide or some other "Lye" down the drain is considered "Ecologically Friendly"? I agree that there would be no carbon gas emissions but does that justify making the water resources alkaline?
                              It is ecologically friendly providing the effluent goes to a sewage treatment plant first. The funeral homes that have a license to perform water cremation here are only in municipalities where a sewage treatment plant exists.

                              Probably the best eco-friendly method of disposing of a body is the good ol’ fashioned way: six feet under...

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