I believe women exactly want such type of men, I agree with you that this wish does not turn a woman into a gold digger. On the other hand, men also wish for responsible, reliable partners who do not view them just as a source of their income. Who wants a lazy, irresponsible, non smart guy unable to have financial stability? No sane woman does. Who wants someone who views them just as a wallet? No sane man does either.
I think these are extremes. Everything done as usual activities becomes a routine, including staying at home and other activities if a person doesn't work. we all live with certain routines, things are not just black and white. I doubt there are lots of blockheaded women who work like horses in order to support a good for nothing man and I doubt that men appreciate the mentality that they alone must be responsible about finance either. In a usual world, not some imaginary one.